Therapy sessions offer an opportunity to talk about difficulties in a private, confidential, non-judgmental and objective space. Sometimes talking to family and friends is not possible or helpful as they might be too involved in the problem themselves or we might worry about hurting or worrying them by what we need to discuss. Sometimes when we try to protect our loved ones it is difficult for us to discuss our problems with them.
Psychological therapy helps us to develop insight into our difficulties and to learn different ways of resolving, coping or tolerating these difficulties in more positive ways when the cause of the problem cannot be changed.
Psychological therapy is not a magic cure, it can’t take all of our problems away or make us feel forever happy. Therapy is there to help people to become independent in manging the ‘ups and downs’ as they occur throughout the life. Sometimes there is a lot we can do about certain problems and sometimes there is not much we can do.
In my experience psychological therapy helps majority of the people, but will not always work for everyone. Being ready for therapy increases the probability of therapy being successful.
Readiness for therapy can be a difficult concept to explain, but in nutshell it means that the individual is able to verbalise their thoughts and feelings, they are able to reflect on their own behaviour (even when this is uncomfortable or scary), reflect on the impact they might have on others and they are motivated (have a reason) to change.
What happens during a session?
During the session we will have a chat about what has been troubling you and agree on therapy goals, about what you would like to have achieved by the end of therapy. Therapeutic work is also likely to include ‘homework’ such as practical exercises to be completed between the sessions. This creates a ‘ripple’ effect, when what is learnt in therapy is translated into everyday life….
Children or pets are not permitted in the room during therapy as they distract attention away from the pertinent issues.